tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post7650184386430507402..comments2024-01-20T20:13:48.901-07:00Comments on Widow Chick: Could Grief be the Best Teacher You've Ever Had?Widow Chickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15830496557976820633noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-39957065980195257492011-10-27T20:02:47.217-06:002011-10-27T20:02:47.217-06:00Maria...it IS such a small world! You can't g...Maria...it IS such a small world! You can't get better than the Dimmicks. I hate to brag about my own family, but they're good people. :>) I'm so sorry for your loss and there are many of us who are walking this road and eager to support each other. Reaching out (as you're doing now) is the best way to put one foot in front of the other. Please keep in touch.<br /><br />Sue...I'm still learning the lesson that only I can do this the way I'm meant to. I sometimes have a hard time tuning outside influences out, but when I do and grieve on my own terms...I feel so much better. Hang in there. Please know that I value your friendship. You are one of the most authentic people I know.Widow Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15830496557976820633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-86186371546972899822011-10-26T19:52:51.637-06:002011-10-26T19:52:51.637-06:00Wow....I was also thinking in a year I will feel b...Wow....I was also thinking in a year I will feel better...I don't know if I had known then what I know now, that I ever would have made it this far. The despair, my God, the despair...how can this possibly be happening? That I will never see him again...this wonderful man who was part of my life for 30 years? How is this possible? Then the anger....at God, the doctors, people who never called me when they said they would...this whole thing is insane!! For some reason, at almost 2.5 years, I have been thinking of all the people who told me to move on, let go, go to church, etc....And you know, all I can think of is "when you leave the person you love more than anything in the world dead, in a bed in ICU, and you turn and look through the glass at his lifeless body.....THEN you can talk to me about this.....I am getting more comfortable with this living alone, and I no longer worry that I am not getting out very much...I was so desperate to feel better that after 6 months I volunteered for an agency I should never have volunteered for because people said I had to do that, I would feel better. Today a person I know told me to go to church...I am spiritual and I don't have to go to church to know that. I am finally doing it my way, and while not the ideal way, I am dealing with this the way I feel I need to. Your site has been heaven sent!!!Sue Gaffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00719647562722206463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-68939348681416799942011-10-26T19:37:51.397-06:002011-10-26T19:37:51.397-06:00Oh, I'm so glad I found your blog. I'm on...Oh, I'm so glad I found your blog. I'm only 10 weeks in to this widow world and it's such a relief to find others who have walked these steps. Thank you for your honesty and lovely writing style. I look forward to scavenging through past posts throughout my grief and healing. <br /><br />My mom actually heard of you through her neighbors - who are apparently your relatives. (The Dimmick's in LC --- small little world.)<br /><br />Thanks again. Wishing you peace and blessings, Maria Lewis<br />www.lewisland7.blogspot.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com