tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post8368491678572204435..comments2024-01-20T20:13:48.901-07:00Comments on Widow Chick: Does It Get Easier?Widow Chickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15830496557976820633noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-26243547439497416692016-10-07T06:51:28.373-06:002016-10-07T06:51:28.373-06:00Hi, thanks for this very nice and interesting post...Hi, thanks for this very nice and interesting post. I like your writing style, it’s quite unique. Please visit <a href="https://goo.gl/MmxMPR" rel="nofollow">https://goo.gl/MmxMPR</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06638962748820756712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-35779202265601055292015-09-20T12:00:33.311-06:002015-09-20T12:00:33.311-06:00When my spouse died a widower wtote and offered sy...When my spouse died a widower wtote and offered sympathy and told of his experience, using words "you get used to it" and I have found his words to be true. <br /><br />You don't want to "get used to it" but the reality of a death and what it means for living settles in over time. <br /> <br />The void is there; the pain remains. The tears can come in unpredictable ways. I miss my spouse every day. Not easy. But I am able to focus on a new "now" and move forward. I can laugh and I can dance (now I just have to find someone with whom to dance!). <br /><br />But if I don't I know I will be OK.<br /><br />The widower who offered these words is now gone also. I found his words helpful and sustaining during rough patches (you know what I mean). <br /><br />I offer his words in hopes they may help others also. <br />Virtual hugs come your way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-43757039801019278252015-09-15T20:16:39.742-06:002015-09-15T20:16:39.742-06:00I think it gets less "intense". We are...I think it gets less "intense". We are not as surprised by the pain now, we are more used to it, but that doesn't take away the pain it just lessens the initial impact. The pain itself is just more familiar.Sharonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-3405857278937008742015-08-18T07:38:45.180-06:002015-08-18T07:38:45.180-06:00Someone told me, "it doesn't get better b...Someone told me, "it doesn't get better but it does get easier." But you're right, 'easier' doesn't really describe it, especially as 'easier' is defined. I like Katiu's line above that the "sharp edge of our grief has become blunted over time."<br /><br />It's been six years for me and I'm creating a life I love but that doesn't mean I don't miss him and which I had my old life back. It only means that I'm creating something I also love in place of what I've lost.Myra McElhaneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15044837575335056559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-57546767221917986472015-08-17T18:02:35.905-06:002015-08-17T18:02:35.905-06:00Here are my thoughts:
accustomed - we become accus...Here are my thoughts:<br />accustomed - we become accustomed to our new situation<br />or <br />familiar - it is now the 'familiar' face of our life<br />or<br />The sharp edge of our grief has become blunted over time.<br />I say this as I sit in the midst of *my* bedroom, where there used to be a queen size bed, and there is now a twin, and a desk, and stacks of 'stuff' moved from other rooms for me to sort. Sometimes a blunt instrument can hurt pretty bad, too.Katiuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09622849801361945202noreply@blogger.com