tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post8473083118484565614..comments2024-01-20T20:13:48.901-07:00Comments on Widow Chick: Widowhood: Only the LonelyWidow Chickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15830496557976820633noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-11334353857898832142015-02-27T07:04:33.945-07:002015-02-27T07:04:33.945-07:00Can totally relate. I was sitting at a traffic li...Can totally relate. I was sitting at a traffic light. Chad had been gone for about 8 weeks and was thinking about the days events. I reached for my cell phone because I just knew Chad would want to hear about my day....then it hit me. He's gone.Shannon S.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-3079366650372142662013-11-02T13:47:57.031-06:002013-11-02T13:47:57.031-06:00Thank you for this post. It resonated so deeply. ...Thank you for this post. It resonated so deeply. I've started dating recently (my husband has been gone for about 16 months) and I think as this new relationship progresses, the lonelier I'm starting to feel. I am consciously aware that I should make no comparisons. This is a different man, but I so miss being with someone who understands me. Perhaps I'm not ready to be emotionally vulnerable with him yet, but I so desire emotional intimacy. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-21343603472272185232012-08-19T20:10:41.786-06:002012-08-19T20:10:41.786-06:00I know this is aug 2012, and last post was in May ...I know this is aug 2012, and last post was in May 2011, but I just had to say thank you. my husband passed 7 weeks ago, and tonight i am going through another deep wave of lonliness. You hav so beautfully put into words what i feel, that i know i can't be crazy. Howcan i be loney with two teens at home? I long for a night ofchatting, about the kids, about us, not about whatever i can comeup with to keep an artificial conversation going with a friebd i so desparately wanted to see until they cameover and i knew they couldnt fill the void. I hate that my bedroom isso quiet, my bed so empty, the bathroom always neat, and the coffee maker isn't running already when icome down. I cant stop the tears rolling down my face when i realize i am now so utterly and totally alone. Everyone tries to chfeer me up but i feel like the wallfloweron a mercy date, bland and lifeless. At least now i know i am not alloneDizzy lizzynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-1743876813466582732011-05-08T23:19:22.540-06:002011-05-08T23:19:22.540-06:00First, my deepest sympathy and respect. 3months in...First, my deepest sympathy and respect. 3months in my loss now. but I'm 59 y/o, was 45 when we met. I don't look anything like I did at 45, much less like the beautiful woman I was at 30something. I don't even recognize my own reflection anymore..I can't begin to imagine anyone being interested in me even if I could get interested in anyone else....problem is...I'm still in here..just alone and not even sure life is worth living for me anymore...what do I really have to look forward to? another 60 something that I may or may not outlive and possibly have to go through this misery all over again?...I don't know if I could do itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-9850056535977800522010-12-18T16:21:39.683-07:002010-12-18T16:21:39.683-07:00EXACTLY how it feels!!! EXACTLY!!!!EXACTLY how it feels!!! EXACTLY!!!!Sunshinehttp://www.sunshine-widowsworld.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-61609489145442650362010-12-11T16:04:42.395-07:002010-12-11T16:04:42.395-07:00thanks for saying what i feel.thanks for saying what i feel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-8565638283881842392010-06-10T19:13:54.632-06:002010-06-10T19:13:54.632-06:00My moment: I went to his family reunion 5 months ...My moment: I went to his family reunion 5 months after his death and was happily taking pictures of our kids with his relatives. Ridiculous, but I kind of felt like I was going to show all these pictures to him when we got home--I was taking them for HIM to see. And then that "thud" occurred. After that I stopped taking pictures for a long time. Who on earth was I supposed to show them to? <br /><br />Thanks for your blog!APTnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-61264285960564821972010-06-07T13:39:14.683-06:002010-06-07T13:39:14.683-06:00Thanks for post. What you have written in the post...Thanks for post. What you have written in the post is feel by me. Thanks again for writing such a nice blog.P Ropeciahttp://www.franklindrugcenter.com/propecia.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-81352820891978761722010-06-05T10:02:01.873-06:002010-06-05T10:02:01.873-06:00I think that you live in my head...thank you for s...I think that you live in my head...thank you for speaking so well what I feel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-16510504490400634032010-06-04T22:09:01.832-06:002010-06-04T22:09:01.832-06:00So right on the money....Have felt this almost eve...So right on the money....Have felt this almost every day since I lost my husband. With 4 kids I am never suppose to be alone, but it very lonely. I am going to print it too!<br />Thank you for writingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-88148988772867629322010-06-04T18:22:30.435-06:002010-06-04T18:22:30.435-06:00I don't always comment on my comments. But y&...I don't always comment on my comments. But y'all are amazing. We're all a work in progress, but every time I see someone have the courage to make a comment and talk about something so difficult, it just about brings me to my knees. And I know I'm just sitting in an office chair, but I'm really tall, so that's still a long way.<br /><br />You guys inspire me. I hope I do the same for you.Widow Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15830496557976820633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-72481579648202886842010-06-04T16:01:55.488-06:002010-06-04T16:01:55.488-06:00When I was 21 years old, I lost my first true love...When I was 21 years old, I lost my first true love. No kids, no one at all. Like all of you, I felt alone, all the time. I lost who I was, and because of that I made alot of mistakes. Without those mistakes I would not have realized who I wanted to be. I never wanted to be the person I became. Since then, I have met someone that understands what I have been through, and I love him. It just shows that there is still a future waiting and I know that Cory would be happy for me. It's like they say "I just want you to be happy". I never knew how to explain how I felt to my family and friends, other than just "alone". Thank you for explaining it for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-34092140116823390692010-06-04T08:11:57.726-06:002010-06-04T08:11:57.726-06:00I want to print this out and give it to everyone I...I want to print this out and give it to everyone I know to explain what the nights are like for me. Thank you for putting into words, what I feel...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-37613778583237593512010-06-04T07:57:19.187-06:002010-06-04T07:57:19.187-06:00Great post. I have said numerous times to my son w...Great post. I have said numerous times to my son who has been my rock, how can I be in a room full of people and yet be so completely alone? I think you just explained it perfectly. ThanksAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-50764221012867661242010-06-03T23:52:34.108-06:002010-06-03T23:52:34.108-06:00You said it all so perfectly! Do you know how many...You said it all so perfectly! Do you know how many times I've tried to explain to someone how lonely I am? Even my mom, who tries so hard to understand, can't because I have kids. Having kids means that I should never be lonely, right? Yeah, whatever. The fortunate ones who've never had to walk this walk will never understand that even in a crowded room the loneliness can overwhelm you and almost suffocate you. It is a physical pain, one that hurts so very, very deeply...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-58532360825913164152010-06-03T23:35:01.691-06:002010-06-03T23:35:01.691-06:00Mike and I went to see the Star Trek movie in the ...Mike and I went to see the Star Trek movie in the theaters (which was a rare occasion...we just usually waited for movies to come out on DVD) Mike kept telling me to make sure that I didn't pick up a copy of the DVD because he was going to get it for us. Well it came out on DVD not long after he died. So I bought it on his behalf...but still have not been able to sit down and watch it. It just doesn't feel...right. He was so anxious waiting for it to come out on DVD. I've let the kids watch it...I've let the neighbors watch it. But I'm just not to a point yet where I can watch it yet...and I'm over 7 months out. I'm sure one day I'll be able to. But then again...maybe not. I don't know.<br /><br />I think the loneliness is what really gets me the most out of all these experiences I am going through. Through my entire life (well since when I started dating as a teenager) I've never really been "alone". I always had someone. Break-up and there would always be someone else in the wings waiting. Finding a guy to even just hang out with was never a problem. This is the first time I've EVER been alone for so long. And I can honestly say it really freaks me out sometimes. I know I COULD get out there and meet someone...that's not the issue. The problem is not a single one of them is going to be able to fill the void that is inside of me at this time. And that void...that is where all the loneliness is emanating from.Candace Marleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03743603120882787621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-90955799501428168352010-06-03T22:20:11.419-06:002010-06-03T22:20:11.419-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.the2armshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14974177516781045155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-52240631539151710322010-06-03T21:21:00.864-06:002010-06-03T21:21:00.864-06:00I'm so thankful for your posts. It really giv...I'm so thankful for your posts. It really gives me insight into what my brother must have been (and probably still is) going through after the passing of his wife 5 years ago. <br /><br />So many people in your situation have such a hard time communicating their experience, leaving us loved ones unsure, timid, and questioning how to "be there". So, Thank You for communicating what so many may not be able to, and doing it so darned beautifully!!!<br /><br />Much Love.Ingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06834143232846972629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-26040613660867803712010-06-03T21:16:38.298-06:002010-06-03T21:16:38.298-06:00I felt like that all the time.
And what you said ...I felt like that all the time.<br /><br />And what you said about "Wild Hogs"...I saw the first "Iron Man" movie with my late beloved Nelson. He was such a fan. And of course "Iron Man 2" just came out. And it's being advertised everywhere. He would have loved to see it. We'll never get to see it together. <br /><br />Thanks for your post...I think you speak for us all.Hira Animfeftehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12419384315956434645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-39971341188490007142010-06-03T21:03:49.583-06:002010-06-03T21:03:49.583-06:00Amen.Amen.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com