tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post1739833236925340866..comments2024-01-20T20:13:48.901-07:00Comments on Widow Chick: Flying SoloWidow Chickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15830496557976820633noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-62971467232388540952018-03-21T09:44:18.409-06:002018-03-21T09:44:18.409-06:00While I am not a widow, I was very close with my m...While I am not a widow, I was very close with my mother-in-law when she lost her husband after 55 years of marriage. Watching her go through all the different stages of grief, to dealing with the reality of being a single woman, and hearing her stories of how her life had change because of her new single status in the senior community of South Florida, where she had lived for over 25 years, inspired my latest book - "Welcome to... The Widow's Club."<br /> <br />I was shocked to hear about all the friends who dropped out of her life and delighted in her dating experiences. I wove together a tale based on her and the stories of many other widows who also graciously shared their experiences with me. I'm currently working on the final touches and will be publishing through Amazon soon. Wishing you all love, joy, peace and prosperity.<br /><br />Sula Miller<br />www.SulaImagery.com<br />Sula Millerhttp://www.sulaimagery.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-67455494105908091192018-03-19T15:05:23.525-06:002018-03-19T15:05:23.525-06:00I totally understand the feeling of loss of self-w...I totally understand the feeling of loss of self-worth. I recently had a man come into my life, not quite 2 years after my husband passed, that made me feel like I was worth something. That I was still desirable both emotionally and physically. It was nice to be validated again, and gave me the kick I needed to seek someone to spend time with. I am independent and I know that will be an issue, but it's me. I don't know how to find these elusive men that will hopefully bring some fun and adventures. I would like that dating coach mentioned above. LOl!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-52196874849955199352012-10-23T20:10:45.158-06:002012-10-23T20:10:45.158-06:00"All I can think is that with every heartbrea..."All I can think is that with every heartbreak - whether it's from death or the loss of a relationship - there is something to be learned." There is. And the thing is, as a widow, we are emerging http://www.familyis.org/blogs/widow-remarried/2012/10/24/emerging-and-not-know-who-you-are/ We are not what we were before and I'm not quite sure we know who we are becoming but we hope. <br /><br />Widow Remarriedhttp://www.familyis.org/blogs/widow-remarried/2012/10/24/emerging-and-not-know-who-you-are/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-88473718643202767532012-10-23T13:39:47.877-06:002012-10-23T13:39:47.877-06:00Thank you for your honest description of widowhood...Thank you for your honest description of widowhood. You have inspired me. You have told me it will get better and now honestly say sometimes it is just rough. Eitherway I get tired of these blogs that make everything seem so damn perfect. Life isn't perfect. If it was, we wouldn't be widows.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707935340159038550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-68132250720217696642012-10-23T09:52:56.049-06:002012-10-23T09:52:56.049-06:00I relate to you very much, and appreciate all that...I relate to you very much, and appreciate all that you share and write about. Sending you peace and love for your heart. You have done one of the hardest things after being widowed - willingly leaving a man who is alive. I think it shows great gumption and conviction of your sense of self. You are amazing and I appreciate you. Hang in there. You're finding your path, you always do. <3Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03288189344566114761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-84449379288592484002012-10-23T06:17:31.737-06:002012-10-23T06:17:31.737-06:00I emailed my dating coach about my reservations re...I emailed my dating coach about my reservations regarding a wanna-be beau. This very-newly minted widower seems to not want to "play the field." I wrote that widower may wake up one morning six months from now and realize he "could have done better. Or that he's missing his second chance to sow his wild oats." <br /> Dating coach replied: Even if he "wakes up" in 6 months and heads off to another, it would have (hopefully) been a 6 month period in which you had some fun and shared some interesting activities - I think it is a better option than spending all your time with 2 cats...<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-4829747122763662532012-10-22T22:16:18.285-06:002012-10-22T22:16:18.285-06:00Thank you for writing. I think that beyond the los...Thank you for writing. I think that beyond the loss of our loved ones and the grief of not seeing them or feeling them again, there is the grief for us, for who we thought we were, who we used to be; once someone so profoundly linked and connected to you is lost we can't help but wonder if we fly solo from now on (not by choice), if we will find it again, or if we are worth of being found again.<br /><br />I wish you the best.Mariantyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17626498628324774639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-45726345806779387462012-10-22T20:41:46.411-06:002012-10-22T20:41:46.411-06:00I find myself in a similar situation... I've b...I find myself in a similar situation... I've been a widow for 11 years and was in a 4 year relationship that ended recently... there were issues with the boyfriend that I couldn't live with any longer... but as i sit here 6 months later...(I promised myself a year off of men) and realize that this time it's my choice to be single... when I was widowed at 30 with 3 kids (11, 8, and 3 weeks) it was so out of my control... I'm sure those of us widowed realize that so much of life is out of our control... I don't know... I didn't date until 6 years after the death of my husband because i didn't want my daughter to think of any other man as her father... but she still experienced a terrible loss at the end of this relationship... One reason my last relationship had troubles was I was so independent! I didn't need a man to take care of me... and he had a hard time with that! I can do some basic things around the house... but for the things i can't... I have a handyman on speed dial!! You will land on your feet! Enjoy the time just being a mom to your children! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com