tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post4168639223192160958..comments2024-01-20T20:13:48.901-07:00Comments on Widow Chick: I'm Fallin'. How About You?Widow Chickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15830496557976820633noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-45008514245780539022010-11-04T07:27:16.955-06:002010-11-04T07:27:16.955-06:00Thank you. Your words and readers' comments re...Thank you. Your words and readers' comments resonated: Just burst into tears thinking how my spouse loved fall, warm meals, actually enjoyed raking leaves, and loved his Christmas stocking which was lovingly made for him years ago. Boxes of ornaments given to each other over the years sit in the attic.<br />Not a clue what to do this holiday--the first without this wonderful man. <br />Life is forever changed. Maybe focusing on putting energy into the life I want (whatever that is!) instead of continuing living with routines of what was, may be what works for me, irrespective of dealing with the waves of grief. I hope so. Hugs to you all!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-10911144831620404332010-11-04T03:15:50.361-06:002010-11-04T03:15:50.361-06:00I've been in the pissed off mode all week myse...I've been in the pissed off mode all week myself...I guess it comes with going through boxes of business rcpts that were suppose to have gone to the cpa's oh I don't know...YEARS AGO!!These were in the garage when I had to sell my home.Got put in storage with a bunch of other packed boxes that I don't have a clue what's in them and don't care at this point but still have to sift through...sometimes it just seems like it will never end.Or when you think you have something taken off your platter and it magically reappears two months later. So yes, let the venting @ the LH commence! The Y did you's,Y didn't you's,how could you's,ect...He still hasn't given me an acceptable answer!!LOL!Thank God today's a new day with a new bottle of wine...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-34222249227537473482010-11-04T00:58:49.250-06:002010-11-04T00:58:49.250-06:00Reading away. I think I'm in the "can do...Reading away. I think I'm in the "can do" mode, but I do get angry that I'm left with it all. Angry at the illness that took my man, not my man. I've been left with three full sheds full of gear, two properties, (one is a 40 acre farm) and I'm not getting any younger!<br /><br />Can relate to your post, and also all the comments. From Anne (in New Zealand)Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17886198661034264422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-12402881054221837982010-11-03T22:11:23.746-06:002010-11-03T22:11:23.746-06:00This is weird!!!! My sister was at my house tonigh...This is weird!!!! My sister was at my house tonight and commented on my dying ivy plant. Now, she is OCD for cleaning. I mean, this woman fu----- loves to clean. I just looked at her, after fixing dinner for her and her husband, and said, "you know, I am doing the work of two people right now. I know the house isn't cleaned the way you would, and you probably cringe at the cobwebs I am sure you see that I don't, but I am doing all I can do." Even feeding the dogs is an every night thing now. Seems small, but my husband used to do it too. He helped me around the house. I don't have snow problems as I live in AZ,and I let the leaves blow away because I live in the country. But there is some outside work. Brother in law helps, and I pay him for mowing lawn, trimming, etc. Everything else I have to do, or hire someone. Some people have no clue what it's all about.Sue Gaffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00719647562722206463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-77056506982030984282010-11-03T20:35:34.475-06:002010-11-03T20:35:34.475-06:00I am so feeling this! I tried so hard for so long ...I am so feeling this! I tried so hard for so long to keep up the "we" even tho it was just me...I'm exhausted. I'm so over the "I did it" phase too. It just isn't fun when the "I did it" is every thing! It is just exhausting! Thanks so much for this post...I'm so tired now, I must go to bed...maybe that's the one benefit of doing everything ourselves...at night I'm just too tired to be sad. Good night!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-43160753004729917902010-11-03T20:04:51.862-06:002010-11-03T20:04:51.862-06:00Ah, damn, Dear died last winter, worst around here...Ah, damn, Dear died last winter, worst around here in years but, you know, the tractor might have been his, but the snow blade? mine, I did it. <br /><br />This autumnal time, I am not raking what can't be bitten to bits by the zero turn mower. The pine needles I want, another story.<br /><br />Of course I am still reading, delusional? yep, I'll own that. Oh and your dad? Love him for you but, really, I don't care his age, he gets a dope slap. Honey, you warmed yourself once stacking the damn shit and then it gets to work warming you again, best job!Linda M. Epsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10483121679256889932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-89955259873813250072010-11-03T19:57:00.225-06:002010-11-03T19:57:00.225-06:00so well timed. I went to kohl's two weeks bef...so well timed. I went to kohl's two weeks before Halloween and I saw Christmas Stockings and just lost it. I just kept thinking, what am I going to do with his stocking this year? Do I hang it up? Do I not hang it up? What are the kids going to think? Just I don't know, made me think about everything coming up. Was in denial about it until those damn stockings!!!<br />Advice, get a quote on a landscaper... I never thought I could afford one, I have five acres of leaves and was charged $600. Came home from work and it was like fairies came and took them all away. Well worth it :) Glad to know I'm not the only one who curses out their husband for not being there for the crap they used to do :)Donna Znoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-10237980770381593482010-11-03T19:55:53.523-06:002010-11-03T19:55:53.523-06:00I do all my Christmas shopping online and am done ...I do all my Christmas shopping online and am done by the second week of November. I hate the holidays but Christmas day is my son's birthday so I am forced to deal with it a little. As for the can do attitude, it comes and goes for me even at 3 1/2 years out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-14856265606749370582010-11-03T19:33:19.406-06:002010-11-03T19:33:19.406-06:00In addition to Walgreens, most CVS pharmacies are ...In addition to Walgreens, most CVS pharmacies are open on Christmas too.Xmashttp://openonchristmas.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-24548721062187272812010-11-03T19:20:09.599-06:002010-11-03T19:20:09.599-06:00Anonymous...Can I use that even though my husband ...Anonymous...Can I use that even though my husband didn't technically SAY that??? :>)<br /><br />Thanks all. We ALL "can do." :>)Widow Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15830496557976820633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-9350114141910890742010-11-03T18:58:18.406-06:002010-11-03T18:58:18.406-06:00Love your stories and your great sense of humor!
K...Love your stories and your great sense of humor!<br />Keep em coming. Thank God my children are grown<br />and that "daddy" told them to " take care of mamma" as he lay dying in the hospital.<br />He always had a way...very influential. Thought of me until the very end. LOVED THAT MAN!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-57383312707127387092010-11-03T18:57:24.895-06:002010-11-03T18:57:24.895-06:00Oh MY do I relate to this story. You are an aweso...Oh MY do I relate to this story. You are an awesome writer, by the way! I was just trying to tell someone about my attempt with the snowblower last year and how I did, indeed, have to do it twice since it's a tricky little contraption! October was the one year anniversary so last year was our first winter. Yes, I have that can-do attitude and am doing quite well with it so far, I suppose. Hopefully, though, I've added a dollop of realism to my optimism so that I can keep my sanity until the kids turn 18, at least :) Thanks for the story- it was great!Carlyhttp://www.heartachetohealing.weebly.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-83428656501797237072010-11-03T18:45:00.198-06:002010-11-03T18:45:00.198-06:00LOL! I wish that I actually had the "can do&q...LOL! I wish that I actually had the "can do" phase. It has never arrived! While reading this I was impressed with your energy. I envy everyone's energy. Holidays are just too hard for me. I am avoiding all holidays as much as possible. People are starting to get put out with me, but I am ignoring Christmas again this year. I will be taking a vacation to Florida with my grown children which is becoming our new tradition.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10196640098162013255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1410599077591449670.post-24782014461523101522010-11-03T18:12:29.729-06:002010-11-03T18:12:29.729-06:00I'm feel'n ya sister...Changing oil, yard ...I'm feel'n ya sister...Changing oil, yard work, and such...Fur realz I'm over it. The holidays over it...lol *hugs*Widow_Lady302https://www.blogger.com/profile/02473728003078221688noreply@blogger.com