Monday, May 4, 2015

Is Knowing Half the Battle?

I hope I get this blog right.  I had a brilliant idea as I was putting on my make-up and then lost about half of it when I was drying my hair.

So, here goes.

I was thinking about all that I'd been through with this pesky anxiety business.  Now, I know I wrote about it months ago, but around this time last year, I became dangerously close to being housebound.  I couldn't sit in a restaurant.  A short ride in the car made me dizzy and nauseous and if there happened to be traffic...forget about it.  Sitting in a movie theater was a struggle. 

Really.  This was not a good moment for me.

I tried everything I could last year to treat it "organically" only to cycle around again during the holidays and have one of the worst bouts of anxiety I'd ever had. Seriously.  I wanted to write Amazon a thank you note because without them, my kids wouldn't have had any presents.

I didn't give up, but I went a different direction.  I finally got on some medication that changed where I was headed.  And where I was headed was a very scary place.

As I've written before, this probably started a long time ago but peaked last year just as Confessions of a Mediocre Widow was released.  And after my last book signing in Houston - where I sweated and shook through my speech and then almost had a nervous breakdown on the plane ride home - my life completely changed.

A few months ago, I was asked to speak at an education foundation fundraiser in Portland, OR and I cautiously agreed, thinking that this would be a good goal for me.  I thought I had six months to get myself together and that should be plenty of time.

But let me tell you...that plane ride and speaking engagement loomed before me and caused many a sleepless night.

So, two weeks ago, I boarded a plane, gave a speech, and then got back on a plane to come home.  I know to many of you this doesn't sound like much, but for me it was like ripping off a big band-aid.  In a good way.

If you happened to be in the Denver International Airport parking lot on Friday April 24th, I was the woman sitting in her car, grinning like and idiot and saying, "I'm proud of you" to the rearview mirror.

As I was putting on my make-up this morning, I was thinking about these last couple of weeks and how much better I feel.  I confronted the beast and I conquered it.  If someone asked me to fly somewhere tomorrow, I now have my most recent positive experience to draw from...rather than all of the negative ones from last year.

I think that's true for a lot of what I've been through.  When I think about my husband's birthdays that my kids and I have celebrated...they weren't "awesome" but we were okay.  We got through them.  I've had seven Christmases without him and I'm still here - mainly because I know that I can do it.  I know that there will still be unexpected things that come up, but I can remind myself that unexpected things have always come up. 

And I'm still here.

I think I've posted this picture before, but I love it so I'm going to post it again.  I'm just so darn proud of ALL of us.


  1. I think knowing is half the battle, even if it's a daily one. You did good ;)

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