Monday, January 28, 2013

WANTED: Husband

I have a request.

It's very girly, sexist, and I'll be honest with's not very enlightened.

When something goes wrong in my house, I'm the first to admit that I'm proud that I've fixed it.  But I'm going to admit something else.

I don't wanna.

I don't want to plunge the toilet.  I don't want to troubleshoot the rattling in my car.  I don't want to get out a ladder and change that bulb in the hall.

I'd rather close the door on that bathroom, turn up the volume on the radio, and find a flashlight.

It annoys me.  

And I want a husband to fix it.

Now, I realize that I don't need a husband for these things.  In fact, I'm not entirely sure I'm ready for a husband.  I know I can do it myself, call a handyman, or (when desperate) make an emotional plea to one of my male neighbors.

But again.

I don't wanna.

I want that guy here who has to fix it because it's his house, too.  Who notices that the light above the sink isn't working and since it's his house as well...he trots off to find the bulb, stands on a stool, and replaces it.  Who plunges the toilet because it just needs to get done.  Who whisks my car off to the nearest mechanic to get that rattle fixed.

And since I'm not sure I'm ready for a husband - I want this guy to do all of this without the added side effect of snoring in my ear every night.

So, basically I want a guy to just show up at my house, fix all of my shit, and go home.

Now, the only thing that might save me at this point is that there might be some widower out there who is embarrassed to admit that he wants a wife.  Someone who might like to cook, who enjoys fresh flowers every once in a while, and who changes the sheets on the bed just because she knows it needs to get done.

Yikes.  I'm wondering if my therapist is reading this????

Widow Chick (aka, Catherine Tidd) is the author of the memoir Confessions of a Mediocre Widow (Jan. 2014).  She is also a writer for The Denver Post's Mile High Mamas and a contributor to several books on grief and renewal.


  1. I hear ya. But all it takes is a rotten relationship to get you to change your mind. Worked for me - I'm cured! ;)

    1. Oh yeah. I've got one of those stories too, my friend. I just want someone to come in and do the repairs...and then go home. HA!!!

  2. I LOVE this post, and yeah, i need a handyman too! Like the one good ole James Taylor sings about in his song!
    Just this morning I went to start my car, was already late, and the dang thing wouldnt start. 2 1/2 years ago my hubby would have come to my rescue and all would have been well.
    So reading this was so funny today...thank you!
    Did I read somewhere you were writing a book?

  3. Perhaps this is where my ex was a few years ago. Except for a very brief conversation when we both attended the wedding of our daughter, we hadn't spoken for over 30 years. A couple of years after my wife died my ex left a voice mail message ..." I'm sorry to hear that Jackie died. Perhaps, now that we are both alone we could get back together. We had something once. Besides it would be nice to have a man about the house, to hang pictures and take out the garbage and so on"

  4. So want a man in my life. If he doesnt feel like doing the repairs they will wait till tomorrow

  5. haha.. its wierd.. cos before i logged into reading your post today.. i was thinking exactly that.. I need a man..just to drive me around, to take me shopping, to escort me everywhere, to reach the higher shelves.. sigh.. and then he can go home.. sigh sigh.. i'm so sngle its unbelieveable.

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